Friday, August 20, 2010

Two months

So Jon and I have been married for two months already! wooray!! :) We are very happy together. We are happy to say that marriage is not all butterflies, roses and chocolates!! but it is definitely a great experience!! I would encourage EVERYONE to go for it! The difference between getting married and just living together is huge!! if you only live together, there's no real commitment. Or so I believe. Being married means that you can't just leave and break up whenever your partner starts being a jerk. Marriage demands commitment to make things work and be there for each other. In marriage we have to choose to love when we don't feel like it. There is where we start growing and really building a deep and godly relationship. Or so I believe :). In this past two months, I've learned that men are the ones who go through a lot more adjustments!!! They feel the pressure of responsibility (financial and emotional). That may not sound that bad but it really is. We women deal with emotional things...and that is a big deal to us. Responsibility of another individual's life and well being is the "emotional struggle" for men. I can not complain about Jon. I mean I could if I wanted to...but I'm blessed beyond imagination with him. SO I choose not to complain about him. At least not unless is to his face and in a loving manner. God teaches us to give thanks at all times. If we spend more time complaining rather than giving thanks to the Lord for all the good things, we are more prone to live a miserable life. The more we complain, the less happy and blessed we feel. SO I choose to give thanks for all of my husband's good qualities. And for those bad qualities or actions, I will sit down and talk to him. Let him know how I feel about such and such. Because that is healthy and godly. If I just keep everything to myself, I will end up exploding at some point and that will be worse. I encourage you to do the same. Maybe you are not married, but you can apply this to your boyfriend/girlfriend, your family and friends. Going back to why is better marriage than living together. Marriage is a sacred institution that most people want to avoid. Most of them because they feel that marriage will limit them and take away their freedom. That's stupid, immature and a big fat lie!!! Marriage gives you the more freedom that you can ask for!!!! why?? because you can have sex anytime!!! and you don't have to be afraid of getting the girl pregnant. If you do, that's alright! you are married to her!!! HA! nobody will complain, nobody will think less of you! and best of all, you won't have to explain the parents...or run away from them in the worse case!! ha! Marriage also should give you freedom to not cheat! it is still a problem that you have to fight against, but if you know that at home is the love of your life, a fulfilling sex live and the one who makes your heart smile...I can tell you that will fight harder against unfaithfulness. I mean, why destroy a beautiful relationship for something that will last a couple of days before that person also does the same to you! Another advantage is the fact that you are not alone. That other person is there always for you to encourage you, to help you grow professionally, personally, and in many other aspects of your life. If it is not like that, if it is the opposite, there is something wrong and you may want to consider counseling and prayer. I could go on on the list of all the good things that marriage can bring to your life. But I will stop here. Just remember that marriage will NEVER limit you. It will make you go on the best adventure ever with your favorite person. It should not limit you. Although both will be one in marriage, and decisions will not be made on your own but with both, It is a good thing. You learn to share, to not be egocentric and be a better citizen by doing to your wife as you would like her to do to you and doing to your husband as you would like him to do to you. That will reflect in your daily life. I love you~ Flor Slezak :)

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